The Search Continues

I’ve spent a few years away from the adoptee history search but it’s time to get back to now.

Spending time away from the search is always a good idea.  As exciting as it can be to try and find the past, and as important as it is, since we must remember it cannot be changed and so searching for it can sometimes wait.

I have spent the last five years bringing up our son, Harry (as well as holding down a full-time job).  An absolute joy, growing up into a very fine young man, he has now been in school since September, and loving it.

I rarely have to remind myself that Harry is my only genetic connection in the world as I know it.  I still have no idea how I would feel if I ever found another genetic connection in the world – and the possibility is not futile.  I do check my DNA results every now and then but I don’t get any results closer than 4th cousin.

However, I have still meet up with Vietnamese Adoptee Reunions.  We’ve met up in the summer and for the last few years we have met up in London, we’ve also met in  Norwich and Milton Keynes, since there are Adoptees in all corners of the UK.  One of my adoptee friends has arranged a music festival in Milton Keynes and was possibly one of the best reunion occasions I’ve attending – well, two occasions, as she’s done it twice now. I really look forward to the next time!

A few years ago I was contacted by BBC Ulster: Inside Out as there was another adoptee who hadn’t actually made contact with anyone else.  They were making a documentary on his story and they wanted me to be involved with some direction and contacts.  I met with him in London and introduced him to Brian Freemantle, the man behind the Daily Mail Operation Babylift flight out of Vietnam in 1975 (and Harry’s namesake – Harry is Brian’s middle name).

I’m so fortunate Brian has wanted to stay in contact with us as a family.  He has so many wonderful stories to tell about the Airlift and we have become good friends with the family, I feel so very blessed to know him.  I wish I’d known him sooner but I’m just glad I know him at all.


Author: Viktoria Cowley

Viktoria Cowley has a birth certificate to prove she was born, however, the date of this she knows not to be true. In fact, she knows very little about her first few years of life before she was adopted by a British family, father Douglas and mother Jennifer and brother Jonathan. What she knows about life before this is still a mystery, Viktoria was in the Lam Thi Ny orphanage in the district of Gia Dinh, Saigon, having been supposedly 'abandoned' by her mother. Viktoria does not know her birth name as it was changed when she entered the orphanage to Lam Yen Hang, neither does she know when or where she was really born. Her parentage is also a mystery - having been told two conflicting stories, however, following a DNA test, both stories have been proven to be untrue, and instead of being 100% Vietnamese, is only half Vietnamese so can only assume she is the product of a serviceman and Vietnamese mother. Viktoria's adoptive father worked for the British American Tobacco company in Vietnam at the time and had chosen her from her orphanage and started the adoption process back in 1974. Douglas had finished his tour of duty at the end of 1974 and had made arrangements for Viktoria to be accompanied by a friend to the UK in June of 1975, however by that time, Vietnam was coming to its end and the careful arrangements were no longer going to work. Operation Babylift started and Viktoria was flown to the UK when the then-Foreign Editor of the Daily Mail, Brian Freemantle, instigated the UK Babylift, helping to bring 100 Vietnamese orphans to safety. She quite often refers to herself as being "the baby in the middle" of three on the front page of the Daily Mail of 7 April 1975. Viktoria lives with Paul and they have a son, Harry, named after Brian Freemantle (Brian's middle name) in recognition of Operation Babylift. She often states she doesn't know whether she would be where she is today if it hadn't been for him as all records and information had been destroyed and she wonders if she would have even made it to her 'forever family' had he not stepped in. Harry still remains Viktoria's only genetic connection that she knows about to date. Viktoria has appeared on many media programs over the years, including BBC One: Inside Out South East (2009), BBC One 'Airmail Orphan' (2010), BBC One South East Today (2009), BBC News 24 (2010) BBC The One Show (2018) and has done various radio interviews, including BBC Radio Five Live with Nicky Campbell (2010); BBC World Service, BBC Radio Scotland. Viktoria has various online resources for collating and sharing information with others and is attempting to write a story based on her Operation Babylift beginnings.

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